Culture Shock never fails

     So this year we took the plunge and decided after such a hard year we would go down south to be with my wife's family. Now a quick update for ya'll that didn't know my wife is Jamasian she's Jamaican,Chinese and white. In all honesty she's everything I could have ever wanted in a woman it's great. Well her dad was white his family similar to mine since they are American. Her moms side was a little harder to adjust to being that they are Jamaican. The culture shock in the beginning was really hard they do things very different then Americans and religion to Jamaicans is a big part of their life. Now I adjusted to all of this it was fascinating to me the food was amazing and music great overall I liked it ignoring the religious handicap they all had and simply avoiding trigger topics to avoid any arguments or disagreements. 

     Now we've been away for about four days now and I tell you no matter how much I think I am numb to it I still get offended. Now we all learned at four or so if you have nothing nice to say don't say it at all. Well let me tell you none of them know this idea and never have tried it. From the way I like meat medium rare to my music it's all wrong and classless and blah blah. I cannot even some times I would love to just scream shut the fuck up! But then that would just elevate it to a level I am no where near ready to handle. 

     I never go out of my way to prove my culture superior to others I never really sit and think about how what I like is amazing and what everyone else likes is garbage I honestly just don't care that much. But let me tell you they do that all the time.. And I always have that moment where I'm like but you left and came here so... It obviously isn't that amazing. It's funny cause all the men in this family tend to show up to eat and hide I never really understood why until I married in. The family is very matriarchal which seemed cool but let me tell you they all just talk about how awful men are and put us down so the men get fed up and hide cause we're out numbered and it's not worth the argument. The men are all married in so white or not we don't bother cause at the end of the day we couldn't care 

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     I just found myself hiding not only cause of the pain but literally every time I'm down there I get picked on or singled out and I didn't do anything.. It's soo freaking annoying. If it's not cause I'm american it's cause I'm a man and usually has nothing to do with anything just like they thrive off knit picking. I tell my wife she does nothing and when she does they just pin it on me saying I complain to much or I'm a baby lol.. It's ridiculous. I know this is really common when you marry across cultures I hear it a lot but I just had to rant on here before I get in the car and just leave them all lol! 

     The lesson of this blog is IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY SHUT THE FUCK UP. Or keep it to yourself and talk behind the people's back like Americans have for years lol.